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My Barcelona Itinerary

At Park Guell, overlooking Barcelona

Celebrating my 40th birthday had to be done in style. In fact, I thought it should fulfill a Bucket List item. I mean, it’s a milestone after all! So, I gave myself a trip to Spain! I’ve wanted to visit that country since I started taking Spanish in high school, and fell in love with the culture. Most of my time was spent in Barcelona, and it did not disappoint!

This was also my first solo international trip. I bought the ticket as an error fare, meaning the airline made a mistake on the price, and I had to book it quickly before they realized the mistake. So, I ended up with a ticket from New York to Barcelona for $250! This meant I could see friends in NYC on my way out of the country, and use miles to get to NYC and home from Barcelona. Not too bad!

The downside of booking a ticket in 10 minutes is that I really didn’t have time to invite anyone else. And if you’ve traveled by yourself at all, you know that there are both pros and cons. The plus side is that I got to travel at my own pace (fast and furious) and do what I wanted. Unfortunately, there was no one to share the trip with, and it’s more expensive. In the end, though, I’m so glad I did it. Big check marks in the Bucket List and birthday categories!

Here’s a quick look at my trip, in case you’re interested, or plan to visit Barcelona one day. (I definitely recommend it!)

Friday, September 2nd:

  • Arrived in New York! I was staying with some friends in Queens, and they have a beautiful new baby. So we just went to Astoria Park, and hung out on a beautiful afternoon. That evening, we went to one of their favorite neighborhoods by their house. A lovely, low-key day.

Saturday, September 3rd:

  • We headed to Smorgasburg for lunch! This is almost like a food festival, but it happens on a weekly basis. There were food stalls from over 100 vendors, and had pretty much everything you could think of. We had a sensational dark chocolate, caramel donut concoction as an appetizer, split three ways, and then I settled on Shanghai street food for my meal. Both were fantastic!
  • After this, we took the ferry to Long Island City, Queens, and walked along the water. They have built it up to be really beautiful, and of course, great views of Manhattan. Then we met up with some of their friends, and headed over to Long Island City Flea (LIC Flea), which some of you may have seen on the Flea Market Flip TV show. However, we got there mid-afternoon or so, and the crowd (and vendors) was pretty much gone. Still, a nice to place to sit and chat for a bit.
  • Side note: This was my first trip to New York City, and I’ve been many times, without visiting Manhattan. Who knew there was so much to do otherwise! It was a different kind of trip, but a great stop. And so nice to spend time with friends I don’t see often. A great start to my birthday week.
  • Then it was time for me to head to the airport for my overnight flight! One of the really interesting things about TAP Portugal airlines is that they allow you to bid on business class seats. So, I bid pretty low, and still ended up winning! This afforded me not only a business class seat on the plane (which was fantastic and had all the amenities), but it also came with lounge access. So, I waited for my plane in style. Probably the only time I’ll get to fly like that, but it was a fun way to begin my tip!

Sunday, September 4th:

  • Arrived late afternoon in Barcelona. I was staying near a major train stations, Sants, and was exhausted from all the travel. So, I just grabbed dinner in one of the train station restaurants, walked around for a little bit, and went to bed early—after catching some home improvement show dubbed in Spanish.

Monday, September 5th:

  • For my first full day in Barcelona, I did a half day guided panoramic bus and walking tour. We got a super quick overview of Barcelona and some of the major sites. Then we went on a cable car ride, which overlooked the city. After that, we stopped in the Spanish Village for about an hour to take in some of the history of Spain and see artisans in action. Finally, we took a walking tour of the Gothic Quarter, which was super old and interesting.
  • That evening, I a tapas evening walking tour of Barcelona. This was one of my highlights! The guide, Paloma, was very fun, and it was just a cool experience. I wanted to do this at the beginning of my trip because they teach you about the food culture, how to order, popular items, what to look for, how to navigate the markets, etc. And, of course, you get to taste different foods along the way, as well as have two sit-down meals. This tour was awesome.

Tuesday, September 6th:

  • Morning and afternoon were spent on a hop-on hop-off bus tour. I had debated doing this on the first day, but the timing with the tapas tour worked better this way. It almost pained me to do this in an old, elegant, European city like Barcelona, where I wouldn’t think twice about it in the U.S. But this was really the best way to get an overview of the city, as well as the lay of the land. I rode two of their three routes, so I went all over the city from top to bottom. And, of course, you have the headsets to get the history of the sites while you ride. This tour bus was also really nice because there was free wifi, and you also received a coupon book.
  • My late afternoon and early evening were occupied with a free Gaudi architecture walking tour. Gaudi is a favored son of Barcelona, and there are numerous tours that include his work (as well as the Gothic Quarter). I was not familiar with him before leaving, but everyone said his buildings would be some of the highlights. They weren’t wrong! His style was/is radical in so many ways, and it is heavily inspired by nature. It’s all very fun and whimsical, and he incorporates such amazing techniques for structure and stability that I’m surprised are not copied more. His most famous work, La Sagrada Familia, is a basilica that he had only started before he died, and is still under construction. He left plans for completion, and there is still MUCH work to be done. They hope to finish by 2026, the 100th anniversary of his death, but no one thinks it’ll actually happen. This was another terrific tour.

Wednesday, September 7th:

  • This day I’d set aside for a “three countries in one day” trip I found online. Only in Europe can you do something so wonderful! We took a small bus to a medieval town in Spain, called Baga, for breakfast. It was so charming! There we took a walk around, learned the history of the town, grabbed pastries and coffee, and took a million photos. From there we headed to France. We hit a bit of a snag with a breakdown that cost us about an hour. But the weather was amazing, and everyone was a good sport, so we just enjoyed getting to know each other. There were only about 20 of us on the day trip. Our guide, Carmello, was very stressed out, but we assured him it was fine. He was funny and helpful, and everyone just loved him. We finally made it to Ax-les-Thermes, France, which is known for their hot springs (note the name). Unfortunately, we only had about an hour here, so we barely had time for lunch and to see the hot springs before getting back on the road. Not the best lunch, even though I do love French food, but the company was good. Our final stop was the country of Andorra, and it’s capital city, Andorra la Vella. This was probably the biggest surprise. Evidently, Andorra is mostly a country of ski resorts and modern shopping, because that’s about all we saw. It was a bit of a let-down from that standpoint, since I was expecting more historic architecture, but the drive through the mountains was picturesque, and it was nice to see somewhere besides Barcelona on my trip. And hey, another stamp in my passport!
  • I ended up eating dinner with two of the ladies from the trip, who were both from Australia, but didn’t know each other. I’d received restaurant recommendations from my tapas tour guide, so we checked out one of her suggestions, Casa Lolea. It was marvelous, and fun to hear about Australia, which I hope to see one day as well.

Thursday, September 8th: (My birthday!)

  • This was my last full day, so I packed this one as much as I could. First, I went to La Sagrada Familia. I’d been past it twice now on different tours, but this was the first time I went inside. It was massive! And colorful! And just so darn interesting. I did the audio tour since I booked too late to get a guided tour. But this place is just jaw-dropping. It looks like a hot mess from the outside in photos because the sides all have different styles of architecture, and there is still so much construction. But it is really quite majestic to see in person. And the interior is as overwhelming in detail as the outside. It’s a really amazing place. Glad I took the time to go inside.
  • Next, the Picasso museum. He is not originally from Barcelona, but called it home for a while, and they definitely claim him as one of their own. He also claimed them. Again, I did the audio tour here since I didn’t make the guided tour. I always try and do the tours in some capacity. I like art, and can appreciate a lot of it, but it’s so much more interesting to me when someone’s explaining it. And that was again the case here. I think more people would enjoy art museums if they did the tours. Anyway, it was also fascinating to see the different styles he evolved into. Quite a genius.
  • I took a quick break for lunch here. I’m usually quite the foodie when I travel, but I had so much to cram into my trip that, often, food was more about convenience. I ate lots of local delicacies and at some great, little places, but they were always nearby or on the way. The food everywhere is pretty fantastic, though. (Except for US fast food, which I saw here and there, and it pained me. Not one of our best influences on the world.)
  • Third, I went to the Palau de la Musica (Music Palace). I had been really looking forward to this one, and it was also one that all the locals talked about and were proud of. I don’t know what to tell you here. Stunning. Just stunning. Click the link above and see for yourself! I really wish I’d had time to see a performance. The entire building was so gorgeous, and I could’ve stopped to take pictures here for hours. But…I didn’t have time.
  • That night, I went to a flamenco show. It was on Las Ramblas, the busiest and most famous street and Barcelona, and in the oldest theatre in the city. Sadly, I didn’t get to see a lot of the theater because there are several performance spaces in the building, and the one I was in was immediately downstairs. Unfortunately, my tapas were a little sub-par as well. But, the show itself was terrific! It was very low-key, just the dancers, singers and their instruments, but really fabulous. We were all on our feet at the end. And I couldn’t visit Spain without catching a flamenco show!

Friday, September 9th:

  • I’d originally planned on sleeping it, eating a leisurely breakfast, and heading to the airport. But there was just so much to see! I’ve easily covered cities in four days before, but this just wasn’t one of them. And, by now, I was as in love with Gaudi as everyone else. So, that morning I got up early to hit Park Guell before I left. As I mentioned before, Gaudi was largely inspired by nature. And this is the only park he designed, I believe. It was originally meant to be sort of what we in the US would consider a country club type of grounds, where the wealthy would live, with large open spaces and an outdoor market. It was also very different and modern, so the US “park” is used in the spelling instead of the traditional “parc.” However, that vision never really materialized. Good thing for us! It’s beautiful to walk around, and like his other stuff, very whimsical and charming. And it’s at a high point in the city, so the sun was just rising over Barcelona when I was there. It was a grand way to end my trip.

As you can see, I covered a lot of ground. I walked about 50,000 steps over the course of the eight days—and boy, did my feet feel every step! But I’m really glad I was able to fit in so much. I got to see most everything I wanted to see, but would’ve been really happy with a few more days—and a few hundred more dollars!

But there you go, Barcelona for my birthday! How I’ll top that moving forward, I don’t know. But I love a good challenge. 😉

You can view all pictures here, or just catch the highlights on Instagram. You can even read my 40th Birthday Reverse Bucket List to see all of the things I celebrated.

Finally, a few Barcelona fun facts:

  • Sangria is only for tourists. It’s their version of Two Buck Chuck, the $2 wine from Trader Joe’s. But lost of restaurants have it because the tourists will pay more for it!
  • Barcelona is the capital of Spain’s Catalonia region, and the locals are FIERCELY proud of it. In fact, you’ll see Spanish flags with a blue triangle and star around town that represent the people who think Catalonia should be independent from Spain. Reminded me a bit of Texas…
  • Catalonia means “castle,” you’ll see that adorning things as well. The seats of the Music Palace, for example, have little castles all over them.
  • Again, the locals are very proud of their city. So, if you get in a cab, no matter where you say you’re going, they’ll get excited and say, “Oh, you’ll love it!” Because they genuinely believe everyone should be as enthralled with their hometown as they are. And, okay, I was.
  • The irony of Barcelona is that you need to reserve all your tickets online to skip the lines and stay close to your desired day and time. But, lunch is the biggest meal of the day, and all meals are meant to be savored. So, my “quick” sandwich break on Thursday took 45 minutes, and I was clearly rushing him. For the cheapest/best lunch option, that’s a 3-course “menu de la dia.” Restaurants there are actually required by law to offer it. But you need AT LEAST an hour and a half to have time for all three courses. So, keeping to your reserved ticket time can be tricky. Now you know. And knowing is half the battle.


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My 40th Birthday Reverse Bucket List

109185552Today is my birthday! My…40th birthday! I can’t believe it. How did this happen? Where did the time go? What happens next? Is that a gray hair?

I have lots of questions and very few answers, even after living this long.

But one thing was clear with this impending milestone: It must be celebrated in a BIG way! So, by the time you read this, I’ll be in Spain! I know, right? It’s a country that I’ve wanted to visit for a very long time, and I’m so excited to mark this occasion there (or here, for me, because I’m here/there right now). If you’d like to follow along, you can check out my Instagram or Twitter. Or read my post-trip itinerary.

Another way I’ve been planning to celebrate this particular and monumental event is with a “reverse bucket list.” I picked up that idea from a business coach I follow, Rebecca Tracey, and it seemed very appropriate. I am a perfectionist and list-maker, so I can often get bogged down in the things I have yet to do, am behind on, or missed out on. I didn’t want this birthday to be about that. So, I’m choosing to honor this day a little differently than most might as they hit 40, and also secretly hoping it’ll help me to celebrate the wins along the way more often.

Here’s to the great life I’ve lived so far, those that have shared it with me, and the wonders that are yet to come!

My Reverse Bucket List: (in no particular order)

  1. Started my own business
  2. Traveled internationally
  3. Read the entire Bible
  4. Went skydiving
  5. Went on a mission trip and a humanitarian trip
  6. Lived in New York
  7. Been paid over $100 per hour
  8. Taken a two-week vacation
  9. Been in a movie (extra in Drumline), on a talk show (audience of Talk Back Live and Tyler Perry Show), in the audience for two game shows (Price is Right and Family Feud), and on a podcast (Girlfriend It)
  10. Attended numerous conferences I love
  11. Held an Oscar
  12. Visited my beloved California at least once every year since 2008
  13. Been in the delivery room for the birth of my best friend’s first child
  14. Seen a Broadway play (and sat in box seats!)
  15. Volunteer for a social justice organization
  16. Participated in a breakout on supply chain at an anti-slavery conference
  17. Walked a half marathon
  18. Lived and traveled by myself
  19. Been published in magazines
  20. Sponsor a World Vision child
  21. Was a camp counselor, and made life-long friends
  22. Went to state twice in high school for One Act Play (a Texas thing)
  23. Moved to Georgia after college, one of the best decisions I’ve ever made because it gave me some of the most amazing people I’ve ever met
  24. Went to counseling for two extended periods of time, something I’d recommend to everyone
  25. Moved away for college, meeting some of the people I still hold closest to my heart
  26. Participate in Lent
  27. Read 40+ books in a year
  28. Purchased a Prius
  29. Made it home to visit family and friends each year for the holidays
  30. Done the major cheesy and fun tourist activities in the cities I’ve lived in
  31. Participate in a fast
  32. Start meditating
  33. Found a mentor
  34. Was baptized and accepted God/Jesus/Holy Spirit
  35. Donate to my missionary friends
  36. Watched all five seasons of Alias in five days—yes, it’s possible!
  37. Learned to cook…somewhat…good enough for me
  38. Had corrective eye surgery
  39. Fought with my words, actions and spending for the rights of others
  40. Started this blog!

 


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India Photos

Photos from my India trip are now up on Flickr! I traveled to Mumbai, Kolkata and Darjeeling with my friends, Katrell and Stephanie, to learn more about social justice up-close, and visit Katrell’s program in Darjeeling, The Learning Tea.

Most photos are courtesy of the amazing Stephanie since I am the dope who washed my phone. Ugh. Still really mad about this. iCloud, here I come.

And a HUGE thanks to the generous sponsors who helped get me here! You guys are incredible.

 

You can read the itinerary for the trip here, and my initial thoughts here.


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India: Initial Thoughts

Kolkata Scenes

Kolkata Scenes

I’ve been back from India for almost two weeks. Still jet-lagged, I know I’m still processing everything. And likely will be for quite a while since it was a lot to take in. But as I recount the journey to people, I find myself saying a few of the same things over and over again. So, I wanted to share them here with you.

Those were the nicest people I’ve ever met. If you compare stories with pretty much anyone who’s been to a third-world country, you’ll hear them make a similar statement. While we often make trips to these countries in an effort to help, through humanitarian or mission-minded efforts, make no mistake—there is a lot we can certainly learn from the people that live there. It is a common denominator that people who have little seem to have so much in the way of joy and happiness. That is something I hope that will stay fresh in my heart. I’ve made a big effort over the last few years to get rid of things I don’t need, but there is more to do. And I have a renewed energy.

I swear, though, the people of India, and Kolkata in particular, could give anyone a lesson in hospitality. They were so kind and generous, though they have little. Hospitality is core to their culture. Whether it was in smiles, or chai, or a meal or asking for directions or pretty much anything else, everyone we encountered made us feel welcome. And in talking to natives, its not just that we were Western visitors. It’s just in their nature. And it was humbling to witness.

It’s easy to see how easy people can be taken advantage of. I keep telling people the best word I have to explain Kolkata is “post-apocalyptic.” It honestly looks like some major catastrophe happened there, yet people managed to live through it somehow. It is a shadow of its former glory, with the beautiful bones of colonial buildings peeking out behind crumbling buildings. Honestly, it’s like people are living in one big slum, or city dump. Trash and smog and pollution everywhere. It’s kind of horrifying.

And with so many people in such bleak conditions, literally people of all ages on every major street, you can get a sense of the ease in which exploitation occurs. According to the Global Slavery Index, there are more slaves in India than anywhere else in the world. This was actually one main reason I wanted to make the trip. I wanted to understand that better. Most of these slaves are through forced or chattel labor, but as prostitution is legal, sex slaves are in high number as well. And desperation often trumps good choices. In fact, choices are in limited supply for many.

Cycles are hard to break. Poverty, abuse, exploitation. You see them everywhere you go, and in an up-close and personal way. Yes, they certainly exist in the US, but not to this degree and not in such a blatant way.

There were multiple times I was reminded on the trip that I can’t save anyone. I can offer help, but the choices are (and must be) their own. And they must decide that they want something different. Sometimes, sadly, it’s just easier or more familiar to continue the cycle. There were several people I desperately wanted more out of life for, but until they are ready to change, things will remain the same. Unfortunately, that can mean for generations. I think that is a defining factor in this country, undoubtedly in large part from the horrible caste system that perpetuated for so long, telling people they had a certain lot in life that couldn’t be risen above.

There are some things I can’t yet reconcile, and maybe never will. I didn’t know this before going, but the fathers are the primary caregivers. Everywhere you’d see dads walking with their kids, holding their kids, grooming their kids, etc. But, of course, it’s also a patriarchal society that still doesn’t value women much.

So, I have a hard time with understanding how men can be the loving father of a baby and then young girl, and then see her relegated to a second-class citizen. It is another disgusting cycle. Of course, this isn’t 100% of the time. There are, as always, exceptions. In too many situations, however, girls may end up as child brides or in arranged marriages, bought or sold, given up because she is a girl and another mouth to feed, or just treated as less. Sometimes, as noted above, it is due to the lack of choices I think, but mostly, I believe it is just a culture shift that desperately needs to happen.

These people need Jesus. Over two weeks, I probably saw maybe half a dozen references to Christianity.  This includes organizations, churches or even depictions of the cross. That was a stark change from growing up in the Bible Belt or South for sure.

I believe in some ways, there is a strong sense of morality in India. I think this is due to the overwhelming Hindu and Muslim influence. How else could they be so kind and hospitable? A moral compass guides them there, I think. They really are such wonderful people. And for Hinduism, in particular, they are often trying to work on characteristics they feel they need to be stronger in, like generosity or bravery or compassion, etc.

But after reflecting on many of the things outlined above, and trying to wrap my mind around them and the many other contradictions I experienced, I think Jesus is the missing link. Now, here me loud and clear when I say that Christians aren’t perfect and don’t have it all together. I’m not talking about Christians. I’m talking about Jesus. Though made in God’s image, we can often be very poor representations. We each have our laundry list of sins and transgressions. But Jesus is perfect. He is the culmination of grace and mercy and sacrifice and love, and by striving for those things, we strive for a better world. Maybe there would be less slavery and more freedom. Maybe there would be less discrimination and more dignity. I honestly believe there would be.

I have three friends who are making plans to move to India as missionaries, and now I see the enormous task ahead of them. But I believe Jesus is bigger, and will do great things in them because they are willing and He is able.

 

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Curious about why I went to India? Read here.


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Our India Itinerary

Darjeeling, nestled in the Himalayas

Darjeeling, nestled in the Himalayas

Greetings! I just returned from India a few days ago, and my head is still reeling! Granted, part of that is probably the jet lag. You can read all about why I went to India right here, but in this post, I wanted to let you know exactly what we did while over the two weeks that were gone.

You can also view some of the initial photos on my Instagram account, but I’ll be posting a lot more soon. And for additional photos, you can visit www.facebook.com/thelearningtea or @thelearningtea on Instagram. These were the good folks, and friends, I was traveling with.

Monday, July 13

Flight from Atlanta to Mumbai. Super long, but nothing too exciting. The most thrilling part was picking out my last US meal at the Newark Airport. I went with cool, fresh and regional—a lobster roll, iced soda and then Jamba Juice for dessert.

Tuesday, July 14

We arrived in Mumbai that evening. There we stayed at a Hare Krishna ashram, which is more like a hotel with a temple area attached. But it was safe, clean, had hot water and AC! And we also received a 4:30 a.m. wake up call to come down to the temple. We sneaked down to watch for a few minutes. Boy, they sure were spirited at that time of the morning!

Wednesday, July 15

We were only in Mumbai overnight and then flew to Kolkata. That morning before our flight, we walked to the nearby mall to find some kurtas and things we could wear for more dressy occasions, if needed. And, luckily, they had a great coffee chain there called Cafe Coffee Day which would become a mainstay on the trip.

The night we arrived in Kolkata there was a massive rainstorm. It’s monsoon season after all. So, it took us a long time to get a cab at the airport because a lot of the cabs don’t even come out in that type of weather. Some aren’t powerful enough, don’t have windshield wipers, or just don’t want to mess with it. And by the time we got close to the hotel, our friendly cab driver said he couldn’t take us down that street. It was flooded. So, he helped us get our luggage to the curb, waved goodbye, and we walked the last couple blocks—water about 6″ deep in some places, squeezing our toes to keep our flip flops on and carrying our luggage when necessary. I’m not going to tell you what could’ve been in that water…

There in Kolkata we stayed at Fairlawn Hotel, a favorite of ex-pats and foreigners. It has a really interesting history and no, it’s not quite as nice as the photos make it out to be. 😉 But tons of kooky character! Even the story on the website doesn’t do it justice, though. It’s very British Colony, down to the way the staff dresses, the breakfast served, and the pictures of William and Kate and other British icons on the wall. Really interesting. Kudos for the window AC unit, too. I would not have made it otherwise.

Thursday, July 16

One of our stops on this day was to New Light, an organization in the Red Light District I’d been eager to visit. Though other programs also work there in the slum, they are the only holistic organization working with kids of all ages whose mothers are sex workers, and also the mothers themselves. They also just opened a space for boys, who get very little attention around the world overall.

New Light provides a safe place for them to come and actually get some sort of education. It also simply gives the kids another place to be during the day instead of on the streets or near, sometimes in the same room, where their mothers are working. Sometimes the moms bring the kids, and sometimes the program has to make contact with the moms to see if they can attend. Sadly, not all parents want their kids to leave that situation for a different or better life. New Light works with 55 kids currently, out of approximately 2,000+ in the Red Light District. Katrell wanted to speak with their director to see if now or in the future, they had any girls that would be candidates for The Learning Tea program.

For more about New Light, watch their segment on the Half The Sky Documentary which is on Netflix streaming. Based on the book of the same name, it’s an incredible documentary about how women are treated around the world and what changing that treatment could do for our world. This segment is with actress America Ferrera, and there are about six 30-minute segments in the film.

Friday, July 17

We went to conduct an interview for a potential Learning Tea scholar. It was hysterically interesting and fun. We went into another slum where this candidate lives with her mother. The father passed last year from asthma. (Incidentally, they lives beside a glue factory.) She was 17, and giggly sweet. She also had fantastic grades.

And when we were walking down the paths to her house we started amassing a following! People staring (staring isn’t taboo here) and smiling and waving and walking behind us to see where we were going. We sat in their little shack with the girl, her mother, her aunt, a local contact and a neighbor. The neighbor was just curious, I think, since he left about halfway through with no explanation. It was a bare clay-ish room with a small table, four blankets and a cabinet. A couple of the other neighbors popped in out of curiosity. And they had to close the shutters on the windows because the little faces kept looking in and staring!

They were all such precious people, and it was sweet to see the mom bragging on her daughters school accomplishments. Everyone was, actually. The girl tutors other kids near the house, and wants to be a college professor. We were served chai and cookies, and chatted for a while about the program, requirements and life in general. They asked a few questions in broken English, and I think they’re very excited about the possibility of her being in the program and getting a free college education.

We were cut a bit short in the interview by the spotting of a spider, no joke, the size of my hand! It was quite funny and frightening. First frightening and later funny. But next, the girl’s English tutor invited us over since she was late to the original party. So we went over there and more of the girls family, aunts and cousins, came to this part. Then we got a second course of Sprite and sweets. Hospitality is HUGE here, and they will make sure you’re past stuffed when you leave them. Here we spent another hour plus going through a lot of the same things, and also more reciprocating questions as best we all could. Then the crowd saw us to our taxi, and our faithful driver for the week Zakir, and we were off again. Overall, it was a several hour process. Katrell said they’ll be talking about the white women who came to their neighbor’s house for years to come!

Unfortunately, school has already started in Darjeeling. So, if this girl decides to participate in the program, it might be a year of her staying at home before school. We’re not sure what will happen at this point, but it was such a pleasure to meet her, her mother and her community.  Katrell nick-named them the “super women” because it was group of strong, passionate women who made up her community. They were a great example for this girl.

Kolkata is so strange, such a dichotomy. I’ve never seen, heard, smelled or imagined such filthy conditions. It is so very sad. But at the same time, the people are so sweet and giving and helpful. The cookies, sweets and Sprite purchased for us cost that family A LOT of money they didn’t have but they ate none with us, and wrapped up what we didn’t eat to take with us. I’m not even sure some if some of them had ever tasted those things themselves. But their effort and hospitality was humbling.

Saturday, July 18

We started to feel the jet lag finally, and just visited a few stores and caught up on things like email.

Sunday, July 19

This morning we were on a hunt for a graduation gift for one of The Learning Tea girls, and ended up with some pretty, gold earrings. And I found my favorite US coffee chain at one of the malls, Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf, so I was able to partake of my beloved iced tea and cold coffee drinks for a while. (The water is filtered at places like that.)

In the afternoon Stephanie and I visited the Victoria Memorial and Mother Teresa’s house. Victoria Memorial is in honor of Queen Victoria and displays a lot of the country’s history, especially under English rule. It is a big tourist place and many Indian people from all over come to see it. In fact, it was quite crowded because it was both a Hindu and Muslim holiday, so a lot of people from outlying villages were there.

Under no circumstances am I exaggerating when I tell you that Stephanie and I now know what THE BIGGEST CELEBRITIES IN THE WORLD feel like. We received far more stares and pointing than the rest of the week combined. It was insane! People wanting pictures with us or trying to take our picture as we walked by. Following us around the area or trying to brush up against us. Seeing us and stopping in their tracks. Making sure their friends saw us. Too funny. We tried to smile and wave and make comments to a bunch of them, and they just loved it. Really crazy. And I’m like a foot taller than everyone, and really pale, so I’m easy to spot. But just so you know, I’m a big deal in India. (Note: I have not received the same treatment since getting home.)

Next the two of us went to Mother Teresa’s house, where she worked, is buried, her small museum is held and the work continues. They don’t allow you to take pictures inside except of the grave area, but everything was simple and clean. “Clean” definitely stands out in this city! There was also a Spanish church service going on while we were there. Unfortunately, we didn’t have enough time to volunteer on this trip. Everything takes forever here, compared to our Western pace, so I was sad we didn’t have more time there. But so glad we got to see it.

As mentioned, Saturday and Sunday were Muslim and Hindu holidays. Evidently Hindus have a zillion holidays, though, which I can respect. 😉 Zakir, who is Muslim, said his holiday, Eid, is kind of like a Christmas where they give gifts and celebrate joy and love of their families. The gift of choice is clothes so everyone walking through the streets looked fresh and clean and pressed. For the Hindu one, all kinds of little chariots and floats appeared on the streets. He said there will be some sort of a parade on Monday. But, sadly for us, these holidays slowed us down a little because some of the people we were hoping to connect with are off or celebrating or have closed business. Overall the streets were less crowded with the holidays, though, and that was nice. Otherwise, there is a huge mass of people around. Well, let me amend that—after 10 or 11 a.m. when the stores open. Prior to that, you have your run of the city. As a night owl and typically late sleeper, I can respect that too.

Monday, July 20

In the morning and afternoon we had meetings with the Glenburn tea company, where Katrell sources her tea for Dr. Bombay’s. Their office headquarters is there, so we met with the heads of the company, and then the people that package their tea. These people know their stuff! We talked packaging and marketing, and our love for this popular little plant. (Though I didn’t tell them that, due to my Southern roots, my experience was mostly of the iced variety. But I’m becoming a believer.)

We’d hope to make a couple other stops in Kolkata, but due to the holidays and people being out of town, it didn’t happen. Both were to jewelry producers. One is a friend of Katrell’s, but he was in the States. The other was the fair trade jewelry that Katrell sells at her tea shop. Oh, and Glenburn wanted to take us to the tea auction, but it was postponed to later in the week as well. That would’ve been really interesting, I’m sure.

The overnight train from Kolkata to Siligury was…not an experience I’d like to repeat, well, ever. First of all, I started getting a fever and nauseous about an hour before we left. So, sitting at the hot train station and then getting on a non-air conditioned train for 11 hours wasn’t fun. Luckily, I was able to get on and sleep for a lot of the time. But all I can say is that visiting the bathroom on multiple occasions was terrible, or whatever word is worse than that. I don’t know how I didn’t throw up from the smell alone, but by God’s grace, I held it together—or at least in. Sleeping was definitely my best friend that night. I felt a lot better about halfway through the ride. Sadly, when I woke up, I learned Stephanie got really sick during the train ride, and was that way for about 24 hours. We think it was our dinner the night before, but aren’t really sure. But it passed for both of us, and didn’t spoil the trip.

Tuesday, July 21

After arriving in Siligury, we caught an SUV to Darjeeling. This was about a five-hour drive. The first half is still pretty hot, but the latter half is when you start making your way up the mountains and it gets cooler and really beautiful. Thank goodness for better weather! It was stifling in Kolkata. About the same temps as Atlanta, but the the smog and pollution trap it all and it’s insanely hot. Also, not a lot of air conditioning to top it off—or cold drinks.

Finally we arrived in Darjeeling! Darjeeling is located in the Himalayas, with an altitude of around 7,000 feet. As such, it’s just above the cloud lines, which is pretty crazy to think about. (Atlanta sits just over 1,000 feet above sea level.) In the mornings it’s clear and you can see Mount Everest and K-2 off in the distance, and then the clouds settle in over the town throughout the day. But you’re always looking down into some cloud, so it often appears kinda foggy. It usually feels damp, too, as do all your belongings. And it’s pretty remote so there aren’t any train systems or airports there. It’s also a walking town. There are cars there, of course, but no organized transit system. It’s actually a lot like walking around San Francisco with all the steep inclines but with more switchbacks and small streets, and a lot of dogs. It takes your lungs a while to adjust, and I picked up a bit of a cough there, which I think is due to that. Or it could be lung cancer from all the smog and fumes in Kolkata.

Meeting The Learning Tea girls that night was pretty fantastic after seeing their pictures on the walls at Dr. Bombay’s for the last couple of years. They are the cutest things. All are about 5′ tall and 70 pounds soaking wet. Stephanie is 5’4″ and quite petite, and still seemed to tower above them. But after the prolonged travel, it was hard to hold a good conversation with them all on that first night. The three of us were so tired, and even though the girls all take English classes, their speech is still a little broken. But we were their center of attention, so they literally just sat there staring at us and giggling until we asked them questions. So, coming up with a series of questions on a foggy brain was hard! Needless to say, it was an early night. 😉

Wednesday, July 22

For the next couple of days, we saw some of the girls in the morning and all of them at night. They all go to school six days per week, and their days are pretty long. That’s common there, even with them all spread across multiple colleges. Katrell always jokes that even though they are in the program because they are focused on education, she wishes they’d skip class while she’s in town to hang out more! 🙂

Most of the people don’t differentiate breakfast from any other meal, so instead of the traditional rice and veggies, we went for breakfast each morning at Sonam’s. She’s a friend of Katrell’s, and boasts “the home of real coffee.” This is a funny but true statement because it was the only place we went with US-type coffee instead of it being more watered down like tea. And it was definitely more of the breakfast items we were used to, so it was really nice to start the day. A lot of travelers and ex-pats frequent the place, with it’s three tables and 4.5 rating on TripAdvisor.

During the day on Wednesday we went to meet with one of the ladies that sends Katrell girls for the program, Rada, and checks up on them while she’s away. She’s with an organization called Hayden Hall, which I believe is Catholic run, and focuses on giving women in the town skills for meaningful and alternative labor. They also have a retail store, which we found some beautiful souvenirs in! And then we visited the women who were weaving rugs and textiles for the store, learning the craft. We also visited their nursery where rows of sweet little babies were sleeping. Their moms were the weavers. When they put in hours to learn the art of weaving and get paid to do this kind of work over manual labor or sex work, they also get a safe place to take their kids. It’s part of the trade-off. And there were positive messages all over the doors and walls about hygiene or the way people should be treated or women’s/worker’s rights or faith, so it’s a very good place for them to be for multiple reasons.

That night we took the girls to a Bollywood film—and we ALL loved it! The three of us didn’t understand a word, but if we needed, one of the girls would translate the storyline in our ears. But it was really easy to get the gist. It was a really fun experience and distraction.

Thursday, July 23

We mostly ran errands, for ourselves or the girls. We also went back to Hayden Hall to see one of the girls teaching as part of her volunteer hours. As part of The Learning Tea program, the girls have to volunteer 15 hours each month at another program. Their projects include medical clinics, vaccinating dogs (there are dogs everywhere on the streets—and Katrell knows most of them by name!), geriatric programs and things like that. This girl, however, volunteers almost every day at Hayden Hall, teaching the elementary kids. She is in the teacher’s training program for her college degree, and also had numerous of her own craft projects to show us. Anyway, the kids were so cute, and she does a great job with them. Hayden Hall brags continually on her.

Thursday evening we went to a Rotary Club meeting, where Katrell is an honorary member. In fact, she is the only female they allow. It’s totally a boy’s club, but she’s proved she can hold her own with them. Her grandfather was in Rotary and she’s kept the tradition here in Atlanta. But it shows you overall how women are valued when they aren’t allowed to be part of the only Rotary chapter there. However, they were all very kind to us and asked Katrell how were program was going, etc. It was quite interesting to attend. Never thought I’d go to India and hear, “We need to be more careful with the money because there’s not a lot of money left over in the kitty.” I almost laughed out loud.

Thursday night was a family meeting to go over what the girls were learning, how school and life were going, changes that needed to be made, etc. We also thought up a job responsibility for each girl as related to the program. They giggled each time their name was called, and seemed excited to be a part of the action. Some of the tasks include sending more frequent photos, accounting, medical reporter, grades/school/extracurricular reporter, and things like that. And very exciting, we were there to celebrate the FIRST college graduate in the program! She graduated from teacher’s training college, and is going to apply to be a part-time teacher as well as enter a master’s program. Since she’ll still be in school, she’ll remain in the program and at the house. It was really fun to see her excel, and a good example for the other girls as well, though they all have their own aspirations and accomplishments. They’re each in extracurricular activities and winning awards and doing great things there. They will change the face of Darjeeling. And as they are all from very poor or modest backgrounds—almost all are orphans or parents of tea pickers—they are the first in their families to go to college. I think only one or maybe two girls have both parents. And all are from the lowest caste, so their options in life would be extremely limited otherwise. They thanked Katrell, and us, over and over again for helping to provide for them. Stephanie is in charge of a lot of the fundraising efforts here, so it was great for her to meet them and vice versa.

Friday, July 24

Friday morning we took oodles of pictures with the girls before saying goodbye. Then it was off to Glenburn Tea Estate. Um, GORGEOUS! (Be sure to look at these pics!) They had invited us their to be their guests after our meetings with them! Katrell went to the estate six years ago on her first trip to India to see where her tea came from, and has been back one or two other times, but has never stayed there.

It was an hour and a half drive, down to about 3,000 feet above sea level. We each had our own suite, and I took two showers on that first day because I finally had hot water and such lovely accommodations! And the tea estate manager, Parveez Hussain, was our personal guide. Super sweet guy, passionate about tea and rock music. We were also able to go out to see the tea pickers in action. Sheesh, that is hard work! They made it look so easy.

Darjeeling is home to 87 different tea manufacturers, just FYI.

Saturday, July 25

Saturday morning was a tour of the tea-making process. Really interesting, as I don’t know all that much about tea. Glenburn is highly reputable in the world of tea, since they’ve been in business since 1859! They also do a great job in the way they treat their employees, including a health clinic, employee savings and matching program and basic first aid training. They also hold jobs for members of the employee families, and even provide a small school for the more needy employees. We were also able to tour the clinic and school.  The children were absolutely adorable, and you can see a video of them on my Instagram account. So glad that all the children of the workers are given an education.

That afternoon mostly consisted of the three of us meeting and brainstorming. Each evening, dinner is held community-style for all guests. So, there were a handful of others there besides us—a family of four, a couple and a man traveling by himself. There are only eight guest rooms in the estate, I believe. It was interesting getting to know the other guests as well, and learning about why they were there and who they were. The meals were all multi-course and amazing.

Sunday, July 26

Sunday morning meant saying goodbye to start the trip home. Yes, 42 hours in travel time combined. It was hard to leave such a beautiful place, but we were all ready to get home as well. It was about four or so hours down to the closest airport, Bogdogra, which is a military airport. Definitely not the friendliest place on the trip.

From there we flew to Mumbai, arriving around 8 pm. Our flight out was at 2:55 AM. We were ready to board just to fall asleep, but I’ll tell you, the Mumbai international airport is the most gorgeous and interesting airport I’ve ever been in! If I’d been more awake, it would’ve been incredible to walk around. It was like something out of a movie. In fact, they should’ve film a movie there. It’s incredible. That flight was about eight hours, and then we arrived in Frankfurt.

Monday, July 27

We had about two hours there in Germany for breakfast (which meant lattes and chocolate croissants) before boarding our next eight hour flight to Chicago. We found out too late that there was a direct to Atlanta flight, sadly, or could’ve made the switch. Then, another two hours in Chicago, and FINALLY we made our last two hour flight to Atlanta!

God bless America, it was good to be home! And God bless our efficient systems. Definitely missed that…and the ice, A/C and fresh fruits and veggies. (Also note that THREE people vomited in our vicinity during this 42 hours! In Bogdogra, a little boy threw up just before boarding. In Mumbai, a man behind us on the plane threw up AS we touched down and in Chicago someone threw up just before boarding. I have no idea what that means, but it was weird and got funnier as we got more tired.)

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Travel Recap:

  • Atlanta to Newark: 2 hour flight, plus a 2-hour layover
  • Newark to Mumbai: 15 hour flight
  • Mumbai to Kolkata: 5 hour flight
  • Kolkata to Siligury: 11 hour train ride
  • Siligury to Darjeeling: 5 hour drive
  • Darjeeling to Glenburn Tea Estate: 1.5 hour drive
  • Glenburn to Bogdogra: 4 hour drive
  • Bogdogra to Mumbai: 5 hour flight, I think
  • Mumbai to Frankfurt: 8 hour flight, with a 2 hour layover
  • Frankfurt to Chicago: 8 hour flight, with a 2 hour layover
  • Chicago to Atlanta: 2 hours

Total transit time over two weeks: 72.5 hours, not including some of the early waiting at airports and train stations, or trying to find cabs. And when you spread it over just two weeks, it felt like we were always on the go.

So that’s the gist of the trip! Thanks for reading and hanging in there with me.

I definitely have more respect for Katrell now, not only in what she’s doing to help these underprivileged girls, but just the sheer amount of effort it takes to get to them. But then you see Darjeeling, and the beautiful smiles on these girls faces, learn about what their accomplishing, and it makes it worthwhile. Please visit TheLearningTea.com for more info about the program.

It was an incredible journey, and one that I’m still processing. Definitely more thoughts to come!