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Our India Itinerary

Darjeeling, nestled in the Himalayas

Darjeeling, nestled in the Himalayas

Greetings! I just returned from India a few days ago, and my head is still reeling! Granted, part of that is probably the jet lag. You can read all about why I went to India right here, but in this post, I wanted to let you know exactly what we did while over the two weeks that were gone.

You can also view some of the initial photos on my Instagram account, but I’ll be posting a lot more soon. And for additional photos, you can visit www.facebook.com/thelearningtea or @thelearningtea on Instagram. These were the good folks, and friends, I was traveling with.

Monday, July 13

Flight from Atlanta to Mumbai. Super long, but nothing too exciting. The most thrilling part was picking out my last US meal at the Newark Airport. I went with cool, fresh and regional—a lobster roll, iced soda and then Jamba Juice for dessert.

Tuesday, July 14

We arrived in Mumbai that evening. There we stayed at a Hare Krishna ashram, which is more like a hotel with a temple area attached. But it was safe, clean, had hot water and AC! And we also received a 4:30 a.m. wake up call to come down to the temple. We sneaked down to watch for a few minutes. Boy, they sure were spirited at that time of the morning!

Wednesday, July 15

We were only in Mumbai overnight and then flew to Kolkata. That morning before our flight, we walked to the nearby mall to find some kurtas and things we could wear for more dressy occasions, if needed. And, luckily, they had a great coffee chain there called Cafe Coffee Day which would become a mainstay on the trip.

The night we arrived in Kolkata there was a massive rainstorm. It’s monsoon season after all. So, it took us a long time to get a cab at the airport because a lot of the cabs don’t even come out in that type of weather. Some aren’t powerful enough, don’t have windshield wipers, or just don’t want to mess with it. And by the time we got close to the hotel, our friendly cab driver said he couldn’t take us down that street. It was flooded. So, he helped us get our luggage to the curb, waved goodbye, and we walked the last couple blocks—water about 6″ deep in some places, squeezing our toes to keep our flip flops on and carrying our luggage when necessary. I’m not going to tell you what could’ve been in that water…

There in Kolkata we stayed at Fairlawn Hotel, a favorite of ex-pats and foreigners. It has a really interesting history and no, it’s not quite as nice as the photos make it out to be. 😉 But tons of kooky character! Even the story on the website doesn’t do it justice, though. It’s very British Colony, down to the way the staff dresses, the breakfast served, and the pictures of William and Kate and other British icons on the wall. Really interesting. Kudos for the window AC unit, too. I would not have made it otherwise.

Thursday, July 16

One of our stops on this day was to New Light, an organization in the Red Light District I’d been eager to visit. Though other programs also work there in the slum, they are the only holistic organization working with kids of all ages whose mothers are sex workers, and also the mothers themselves. They also just opened a space for boys, who get very little attention around the world overall.

New Light provides a safe place for them to come and actually get some sort of education. It also simply gives the kids another place to be during the day instead of on the streets or near, sometimes in the same room, where their mothers are working. Sometimes the moms bring the kids, and sometimes the program has to make contact with the moms to see if they can attend. Sadly, not all parents want their kids to leave that situation for a different or better life. New Light works with 55 kids currently, out of approximately 2,000+ in the Red Light District. Katrell wanted to speak with their director to see if now or in the future, they had any girls that would be candidates for The Learning Tea program.

For more about New Light, watch their segment on the Half The Sky Documentary which is on Netflix streaming. Based on the book of the same name, it’s an incredible documentary about how women are treated around the world and what changing that treatment could do for our world. This segment is with actress America Ferrera, and there are about six 30-minute segments in the film.

Friday, July 17

We went to conduct an interview for a potential Learning Tea scholar. It was hysterically interesting and fun. We went into another slum where this candidate lives with her mother. The father passed last year from asthma. (Incidentally, they lives beside a glue factory.) She was 17, and giggly sweet. She also had fantastic grades.

And when we were walking down the paths to her house we started amassing a following! People staring (staring isn’t taboo here) and smiling and waving and walking behind us to see where we were going. We sat in their little shack with the girl, her mother, her aunt, a local contact and a neighbor. The neighbor was just curious, I think, since he left about halfway through with no explanation. It was a bare clay-ish room with a small table, four blankets and a cabinet. A couple of the other neighbors popped in out of curiosity. And they had to close the shutters on the windows because the little faces kept looking in and staring!

They were all such precious people, and it was sweet to see the mom bragging on her daughters school accomplishments. Everyone was, actually. The girl tutors other kids near the house, and wants to be a college professor. We were served chai and cookies, and chatted for a while about the program, requirements and life in general. They asked a few questions in broken English, and I think they’re very excited about the possibility of her being in the program and getting a free college education.

We were cut a bit short in the interview by the spotting of a spider, no joke, the size of my hand! It was quite funny and frightening. First frightening and later funny. But next, the girl’s English tutor invited us over since she was late to the original party. So we went over there and more of the girls family, aunts and cousins, came to this part. Then we got a second course of Sprite and sweets. Hospitality is HUGE here, and they will make sure you’re past stuffed when you leave them. Here we spent another hour plus going through a lot of the same things, and also more reciprocating questions as best we all could. Then the crowd saw us to our taxi, and our faithful driver for the week Zakir, and we were off again. Overall, it was a several hour process. Katrell said they’ll be talking about the white women who came to their neighbor’s house for years to come!

Unfortunately, school has already started in Darjeeling. So, if this girl decides to participate in the program, it might be a year of her staying at home before school. We’re not sure what will happen at this point, but it was such a pleasure to meet her, her mother and her community.  Katrell nick-named them the “super women” because it was group of strong, passionate women who made up her community. They were a great example for this girl.

Kolkata is so strange, such a dichotomy. I’ve never seen, heard, smelled or imagined such filthy conditions. It is so very sad. But at the same time, the people are so sweet and giving and helpful. The cookies, sweets and Sprite purchased for us cost that family A LOT of money they didn’t have but they ate none with us, and wrapped up what we didn’t eat to take with us. I’m not even sure some if some of them had ever tasted those things themselves. But their effort and hospitality was humbling.

Saturday, July 18

We started to feel the jet lag finally, and just visited a few stores and caught up on things like email.

Sunday, July 19

This morning we were on a hunt for a graduation gift for one of The Learning Tea girls, and ended up with some pretty, gold earrings. And I found my favorite US coffee chain at one of the malls, Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf, so I was able to partake of my beloved iced tea and cold coffee drinks for a while. (The water is filtered at places like that.)

In the afternoon Stephanie and I visited the Victoria Memorial and Mother Teresa’s house. Victoria Memorial is in honor of Queen Victoria and displays a lot of the country’s history, especially under English rule. It is a big tourist place and many Indian people from all over come to see it. In fact, it was quite crowded because it was both a Hindu and Muslim holiday, so a lot of people from outlying villages were there.

Under no circumstances am I exaggerating when I tell you that Stephanie and I now know what THE BIGGEST CELEBRITIES IN THE WORLD feel like. We received far more stares and pointing than the rest of the week combined. It was insane! People wanting pictures with us or trying to take our picture as we walked by. Following us around the area or trying to brush up against us. Seeing us and stopping in their tracks. Making sure their friends saw us. Too funny. We tried to smile and wave and make comments to a bunch of them, and they just loved it. Really crazy. And I’m like a foot taller than everyone, and really pale, so I’m easy to spot. But just so you know, I’m a big deal in India. (Note: I have not received the same treatment since getting home.)

Next the two of us went to Mother Teresa’s house, where she worked, is buried, her small museum is held and the work continues. They don’t allow you to take pictures inside except of the grave area, but everything was simple and clean. “Clean” definitely stands out in this city! There was also a Spanish church service going on while we were there. Unfortunately, we didn’t have enough time to volunteer on this trip. Everything takes forever here, compared to our Western pace, so I was sad we didn’t have more time there. But so glad we got to see it.

As mentioned, Saturday and Sunday were Muslim and Hindu holidays. Evidently Hindus have a zillion holidays, though, which I can respect. 😉 Zakir, who is Muslim, said his holiday, Eid, is kind of like a Christmas where they give gifts and celebrate joy and love of their families. The gift of choice is clothes so everyone walking through the streets looked fresh and clean and pressed. For the Hindu one, all kinds of little chariots and floats appeared on the streets. He said there will be some sort of a parade on Monday. But, sadly for us, these holidays slowed us down a little because some of the people we were hoping to connect with are off or celebrating or have closed business. Overall the streets were less crowded with the holidays, though, and that was nice. Otherwise, there is a huge mass of people around. Well, let me amend that—after 10 or 11 a.m. when the stores open. Prior to that, you have your run of the city. As a night owl and typically late sleeper, I can respect that too.

Monday, July 20

In the morning and afternoon we had meetings with the Glenburn tea company, where Katrell sources her tea for Dr. Bombay’s. Their office headquarters is there, so we met with the heads of the company, and then the people that package their tea. These people know their stuff! We talked packaging and marketing, and our love for this popular little plant. (Though I didn’t tell them that, due to my Southern roots, my experience was mostly of the iced variety. But I’m becoming a believer.)

We’d hope to make a couple other stops in Kolkata, but due to the holidays and people being out of town, it didn’t happen. Both were to jewelry producers. One is a friend of Katrell’s, but he was in the States. The other was the fair trade jewelry that Katrell sells at her tea shop. Oh, and Glenburn wanted to take us to the tea auction, but it was postponed to later in the week as well. That would’ve been really interesting, I’m sure.

The overnight train from Kolkata to Siligury was…not an experience I’d like to repeat, well, ever. First of all, I started getting a fever and nauseous about an hour before we left. So, sitting at the hot train station and then getting on a non-air conditioned train for 11 hours wasn’t fun. Luckily, I was able to get on and sleep for a lot of the time. But all I can say is that visiting the bathroom on multiple occasions was terrible, or whatever word is worse than that. I don’t know how I didn’t throw up from the smell alone, but by God’s grace, I held it together—or at least in. Sleeping was definitely my best friend that night. I felt a lot better about halfway through the ride. Sadly, when I woke up, I learned Stephanie got really sick during the train ride, and was that way for about 24 hours. We think it was our dinner the night before, but aren’t really sure. But it passed for both of us, and didn’t spoil the trip.

Tuesday, July 21

After arriving in Siligury, we caught an SUV to Darjeeling. This was about a five-hour drive. The first half is still pretty hot, but the latter half is when you start making your way up the mountains and it gets cooler and really beautiful. Thank goodness for better weather! It was stifling in Kolkata. About the same temps as Atlanta, but the the smog and pollution trap it all and it’s insanely hot. Also, not a lot of air conditioning to top it off—or cold drinks.

Finally we arrived in Darjeeling! Darjeeling is located in the Himalayas, with an altitude of around 7,000 feet. As such, it’s just above the cloud lines, which is pretty crazy to think about. (Atlanta sits just over 1,000 feet above sea level.) In the mornings it’s clear and you can see Mount Everest and K-2 off in the distance, and then the clouds settle in over the town throughout the day. But you’re always looking down into some cloud, so it often appears kinda foggy. It usually feels damp, too, as do all your belongings. And it’s pretty remote so there aren’t any train systems or airports there. It’s also a walking town. There are cars there, of course, but no organized transit system. It’s actually a lot like walking around San Francisco with all the steep inclines but with more switchbacks and small streets, and a lot of dogs. It takes your lungs a while to adjust, and I picked up a bit of a cough there, which I think is due to that. Or it could be lung cancer from all the smog and fumes in Kolkata.

Meeting The Learning Tea girls that night was pretty fantastic after seeing their pictures on the walls at Dr. Bombay’s for the last couple of years. They are the cutest things. All are about 5′ tall and 70 pounds soaking wet. Stephanie is 5’4″ and quite petite, and still seemed to tower above them. But after the prolonged travel, it was hard to hold a good conversation with them all on that first night. The three of us were so tired, and even though the girls all take English classes, their speech is still a little broken. But we were their center of attention, so they literally just sat there staring at us and giggling until we asked them questions. So, coming up with a series of questions on a foggy brain was hard! Needless to say, it was an early night. 😉

Wednesday, July 22

For the next couple of days, we saw some of the girls in the morning and all of them at night. They all go to school six days per week, and their days are pretty long. That’s common there, even with them all spread across multiple colleges. Katrell always jokes that even though they are in the program because they are focused on education, she wishes they’d skip class while she’s in town to hang out more! 🙂

Most of the people don’t differentiate breakfast from any other meal, so instead of the traditional rice and veggies, we went for breakfast each morning at Sonam’s. She’s a friend of Katrell’s, and boasts “the home of real coffee.” This is a funny but true statement because it was the only place we went with US-type coffee instead of it being more watered down like tea. And it was definitely more of the breakfast items we were used to, so it was really nice to start the day. A lot of travelers and ex-pats frequent the place, with it’s three tables and 4.5 rating on TripAdvisor.

During the day on Wednesday we went to meet with one of the ladies that sends Katrell girls for the program, Rada, and checks up on them while she’s away. She’s with an organization called Hayden Hall, which I believe is Catholic run, and focuses on giving women in the town skills for meaningful and alternative labor. They also have a retail store, which we found some beautiful souvenirs in! And then we visited the women who were weaving rugs and textiles for the store, learning the craft. We also visited their nursery where rows of sweet little babies were sleeping. Their moms were the weavers. When they put in hours to learn the art of weaving and get paid to do this kind of work over manual labor or sex work, they also get a safe place to take their kids. It’s part of the trade-off. And there were positive messages all over the doors and walls about hygiene or the way people should be treated or women’s/worker’s rights or faith, so it’s a very good place for them to be for multiple reasons.

That night we took the girls to a Bollywood film—and we ALL loved it! The three of us didn’t understand a word, but if we needed, one of the girls would translate the storyline in our ears. But it was really easy to get the gist. It was a really fun experience and distraction.

Thursday, July 23

We mostly ran errands, for ourselves or the girls. We also went back to Hayden Hall to see one of the girls teaching as part of her volunteer hours. As part of The Learning Tea program, the girls have to volunteer 15 hours each month at another program. Their projects include medical clinics, vaccinating dogs (there are dogs everywhere on the streets—and Katrell knows most of them by name!), geriatric programs and things like that. This girl, however, volunteers almost every day at Hayden Hall, teaching the elementary kids. She is in the teacher’s training program for her college degree, and also had numerous of her own craft projects to show us. Anyway, the kids were so cute, and she does a great job with them. Hayden Hall brags continually on her.

Thursday evening we went to a Rotary Club meeting, where Katrell is an honorary member. In fact, she is the only female they allow. It’s totally a boy’s club, but she’s proved she can hold her own with them. Her grandfather was in Rotary and she’s kept the tradition here in Atlanta. But it shows you overall how women are valued when they aren’t allowed to be part of the only Rotary chapter there. However, they were all very kind to us and asked Katrell how were program was going, etc. It was quite interesting to attend. Never thought I’d go to India and hear, “We need to be more careful with the money because there’s not a lot of money left over in the kitty.” I almost laughed out loud.

Thursday night was a family meeting to go over what the girls were learning, how school and life were going, changes that needed to be made, etc. We also thought up a job responsibility for each girl as related to the program. They giggled each time their name was called, and seemed excited to be a part of the action. Some of the tasks include sending more frequent photos, accounting, medical reporter, grades/school/extracurricular reporter, and things like that. And very exciting, we were there to celebrate the FIRST college graduate in the program! She graduated from teacher’s training college, and is going to apply to be a part-time teacher as well as enter a master’s program. Since she’ll still be in school, she’ll remain in the program and at the house. It was really fun to see her excel, and a good example for the other girls as well, though they all have their own aspirations and accomplishments. They’re each in extracurricular activities and winning awards and doing great things there. They will change the face of Darjeeling. And as they are all from very poor or modest backgrounds—almost all are orphans or parents of tea pickers—they are the first in their families to go to college. I think only one or maybe two girls have both parents. And all are from the lowest caste, so their options in life would be extremely limited otherwise. They thanked Katrell, and us, over and over again for helping to provide for them. Stephanie is in charge of a lot of the fundraising efforts here, so it was great for her to meet them and vice versa.

Friday, July 24

Friday morning we took oodles of pictures with the girls before saying goodbye. Then it was off to Glenburn Tea Estate. Um, GORGEOUS! (Be sure to look at these pics!) They had invited us their to be their guests after our meetings with them! Katrell went to the estate six years ago on her first trip to India to see where her tea came from, and has been back one or two other times, but has never stayed there.

It was an hour and a half drive, down to about 3,000 feet above sea level. We each had our own suite, and I took two showers on that first day because I finally had hot water and such lovely accommodations! And the tea estate manager, Parveez Hussain, was our personal guide. Super sweet guy, passionate about tea and rock music. We were also able to go out to see the tea pickers in action. Sheesh, that is hard work! They made it look so easy.

Darjeeling is home to 87 different tea manufacturers, just FYI.

Saturday, July 25

Saturday morning was a tour of the tea-making process. Really interesting, as I don’t know all that much about tea. Glenburn is highly reputable in the world of tea, since they’ve been in business since 1859! They also do a great job in the way they treat their employees, including a health clinic, employee savings and matching program and basic first aid training. They also hold jobs for members of the employee families, and even provide a small school for the more needy employees. We were also able to tour the clinic and school.  The children were absolutely adorable, and you can see a video of them on my Instagram account. So glad that all the children of the workers are given an education.

That afternoon mostly consisted of the three of us meeting and brainstorming. Each evening, dinner is held community-style for all guests. So, there were a handful of others there besides us—a family of four, a couple and a man traveling by himself. There are only eight guest rooms in the estate, I believe. It was interesting getting to know the other guests as well, and learning about why they were there and who they were. The meals were all multi-course and amazing.

Sunday, July 26

Sunday morning meant saying goodbye to start the trip home. Yes, 42 hours in travel time combined. It was hard to leave such a beautiful place, but we were all ready to get home as well. It was about four or so hours down to the closest airport, Bogdogra, which is a military airport. Definitely not the friendliest place on the trip.

From there we flew to Mumbai, arriving around 8 pm. Our flight out was at 2:55 AM. We were ready to board just to fall asleep, but I’ll tell you, the Mumbai international airport is the most gorgeous and interesting airport I’ve ever been in! If I’d been more awake, it would’ve been incredible to walk around. It was like something out of a movie. In fact, they should’ve film a movie there. It’s incredible. That flight was about eight hours, and then we arrived in Frankfurt.

Monday, July 27

We had about two hours there in Germany for breakfast (which meant lattes and chocolate croissants) before boarding our next eight hour flight to Chicago. We found out too late that there was a direct to Atlanta flight, sadly, or could’ve made the switch. Then, another two hours in Chicago, and FINALLY we made our last two hour flight to Atlanta!

God bless America, it was good to be home! And God bless our efficient systems. Definitely missed that…and the ice, A/C and fresh fruits and veggies. (Also note that THREE people vomited in our vicinity during this 42 hours! In Bogdogra, a little boy threw up just before boarding. In Mumbai, a man behind us on the plane threw up AS we touched down and in Chicago someone threw up just before boarding. I have no idea what that means, but it was weird and got funnier as we got more tired.)

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Travel Recap:

  • Atlanta to Newark: 2 hour flight, plus a 2-hour layover
  • Newark to Mumbai: 15 hour flight
  • Mumbai to Kolkata: 5 hour flight
  • Kolkata to Siligury: 11 hour train ride
  • Siligury to Darjeeling: 5 hour drive
  • Darjeeling to Glenburn Tea Estate: 1.5 hour drive
  • Glenburn to Bogdogra: 4 hour drive
  • Bogdogra to Mumbai: 5 hour flight, I think
  • Mumbai to Frankfurt: 8 hour flight, with a 2 hour layover
  • Frankfurt to Chicago: 8 hour flight, with a 2 hour layover
  • Chicago to Atlanta: 2 hours

Total transit time over two weeks: 72.5 hours, not including some of the early waiting at airports and train stations, or trying to find cabs. And when you spread it over just two weeks, it felt like we were always on the go.

So that’s the gist of the trip! Thanks for reading and hanging in there with me.

I definitely have more respect for Katrell now, not only in what she’s doing to help these underprivileged girls, but just the sheer amount of effort it takes to get to them. But then you see Darjeeling, and the beautiful smiles on these girls faces, learn about what their accomplishing, and it makes it worthwhile. Please visit TheLearningTea.com for more info about the program.

It was an incredible journey, and one that I’m still processing. Definitely more thoughts to come!


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Why You Should Read More (And How I Can Help)

Despite the fact that I don’t enjoy reading, I read a lot. Like, A LOT. But it wasn’t always this way. My sense of imagination and wonder came not from books when I was a kid, but from somewhere within—and a lot of movies and TV. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, or at least it wasn’t for me. You’ll find no brain rot here. It served me well for a long time. And honestly, it still does. But I’ve definitely learned the distinctive value of books and reading along the way. And I also realize more and more how few books people read nowadays. So, I’d like to help change that. Consider me your learning advocate. It’s time for an intervention.

I’m an information junkie. I always have been. I love absorbing new thoughts, ideas and experiences. One friend even called me “human Velcro.” I love learning. I’m eternally curious. But I’ve always said I could never go back to school, and instead, that’s why I attend conferences. They’re like little crash courses. Perhaps I couldn’t stay focused for several years again. Perhaps I just don’t want to. I loved my college experience, but I only need one.

Books are their own little crash courses, though. But to this day, given the chance of picking up a book or watching my Roku, the latter wins every time. However, I always want to improve myself, and books are the better way to make that happen. So, I did what all good humans do—I adapted.

That blessed day came when my friend introduced me to Audible. I looooovvvveeee my Audible account! I was resistant at first, but after I gave it a try, I can’t imagine life without it.

Need a little convincing?

Here are a few benefits of reading:

(Click any of the links above for further explanation and more reasons.)

Here are a few reasons you’ll tell me you can’t read more, and where I’ll debunk you:

  • I don’t have time. Wrong answer. You’ve just not prioritized reading. We make time for the things that interest us. You may have to shift some things around, but I promise you, you have more time than you realize. Do an audit of your time to find out. And if you choose to listen to your books like I do, my super smart friend who opened my eyes to Audible noticed that most book chapters are around 20 minutes. So, you can likely find 20 minutes before bed or in the car whether you’re turning pages or plugged in.
  • I don’t have the money. I know, it can get expensive. But, here are a few ideas. First, the library is free. Remember those? Many now have books on CD as well, and a some even have an app for listening on your device. Second, maybe you have a friend(s) who is an avid reader and will let you borrow a few paperbacks to get started. Third, if you’re considering an Audible account, why not share it with a friend or two? You can divide the credits and also listen to each other’s selections.
  • I prefer interaction to solitude. Cool—start a book club. Yep, they still have those, too, and my best friend is in one. I’ve also participated in them for social justice causes. And once you start reading more, you’ll want to talk about it anyway.
  • I’m not an auditory learner. What a coincidence, me either! This was my biggest hurdle in getting started. So, what I recommend to people is by starting with fiction. I listen to more fiction now than ever, but it’s still a smaller percentage in my self-help library. But it’s a lot easier to listen to overarching story lines in the beginning when you’re trying to re-train your brain, than to understand the 37 points of something or another. Trust me, it gets easier. I still have to rewind now and again when I’m really distracted, but it’s less and less.
  • Here are some other ideas to create space in your life for reading. And a few more to grow on for you more stubborn folks.

Well, there you go. Problem solved. Can’t you just feel that you’re about to get smarter? I’m anticipating it for you! It’s going to be awesome. Remember, just start with something that interests you. Then, you’ll find out that you’re interested in all kinds of things!

So, whether you use Audible or the library or a friend’s collection, just promise yourself you’ll start reading more. You’ll thank me for it.

Need a few book ideas to get you started? Here are my reading lists from the last couple of years: 2014, 2013, 2012 and 2011.

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Fun Facts: Tidbits You May Not Know About Me

ThinkstockPhotos-172588224So, if you’ve just started reading this blog recently, you may not know much about me. But I’d like to rectify that now. Here are a few things that might interest you . . .

  1. Language I most want to learn: Spanish. I’ve forgotten most of what I know, but honestly, I’d love to be multilingual in just about anything.
  2. Show I most enjoy binge-watching: Alias
  3. Place I’d most like to travel: Spain
  4. Food I crave most: Appetizers. I love making meals out of an assortment of appetizers.
  5. Pinterest board I use the most: Hair, BY FAR. I’ll never get around to making all those recipes.
  6. Favorite ice cream: Trader Joe’s Coffee Bean OR Bruster’s Key Lime Pie
  7. Biggest fear: Failure
  8. Thing I’m most thankful for: Salvation, followed by grace
  9. Strength I love the most: Faith (second would be independence)
  10. Place I’d most like to live: Probably California, but I’d also love to live somewhere in Europe for at least a year.
  11. Favorite Atlanta eateries: Dr. Bombay’s Underwater Tea Party, di Paolo, Figo, Alon’s, ONE. midtown kitchen, and sooooo many others
  12. Favorite piece of furniture: I have a loveseat made from two movie theater seats. I used to frequent this theater in college so it’s tied to good memories—plus, it has cup holders!
  13. An ability I’m proud of: I’m really good at picking the kind of friends everyone should want and have.
  14. Something I’m not good at and don’t like: Cooking. Despite my best efforts, I’ve yet to rectify this.
  15. A goal I had for this year: Donate hair—just did it!
  16. Biggest pet peeves: Unaware people with strollers and also listening to people eat
  17. A piece of advice I’d give to anyone: You aren’t in control.
  18. A few of my favorite books: Bible, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years, Experiencing God, Visioneering, Harry Potter series, 7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess, and TONS more!
  19. Something I love right now: doTerra essential oils
  20. Most interesting previous job: I reviewed restaurants for a short time in a local, Atlanta publication. The publication is no longer in business, but I’m fairly certain that isn’t my fault.

And here are a few other things I posted previously. Now you know a bit more about me. Tell me something about you!

 

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I Donated My Hair!

Hair DonationIt’s taken a while to get there, but I finally grew enough hair to donate! This was my first time donating, and it was exciting to hear the scissors make the big cut. (I may have even held my breath.)

I always thought it was a really cool idea and have had several friends do it, but didn’t know if I’d ever do it myself or not, simply because it would take so much time. I’m more fond of changing my hair quickly.

But once I started growing it out, my friend Nick who is also my stylist, would ask me every time we got together if I was ready to cut it yet. I said no a few times, and then realized I didn’t know how long I wanted to grow it. So, I thought it might be a good time to consider donating it. It gave me a mark to hit, and I do love a goal.

Deciding where to donate was the next hurdle. There are a lot of great organizations out there, so I started by looking at a lot of the major players:

Locks of Love

Wigs for Kids

Wigs 4 Kids

Children with Hair Loss

Childhood Leukemia Foundation

Pantene Beautiful Lengths

Matter of Trust’s Clean Wave Program

After an initial scan of each organization, I narrowed it down to just three: Locks of Love, Children with Hair Loss and the Clean Wave Program. I was disqualified from the others either because my hair was too short or colored, or both. But I was still left with three great options.

From there I read all the websites thoroughly to make my final choice. If you’ve never heard of the Clean Wave Program, it’s really cool. They use hair to make “brooms” to clean up oil spills. The tree-hugger in me loved that! But, they also encourage you donate your hair to one of the more prominent players if it’s long enough, which is nice. And you only need 3″ of hair to donate. So, it’s a great option for both males and females who have shorter hair. AND if your want your loveable fur ball to feel philanthropic, they also accept pet hair!

So, down to two—much tougher. I really liked Children with Hair Loss (except for the creepy mannequins on the website). They give to children, which I preferred to do, and at no charge. They also choose recipients with all kinds of diagnosis, which I thought was great as I have no particular cause I wanted to support. And they only require eight inches, so I could keep my hair a little longer if I wanted. Plus, they were started by a beautician, which is neat, and the pieces come with hair care kits. It’s the little things! A great option.

Now, the final contender. Over the last few years, Locks of Love has been surrounded by some controversy, so if you’ve heard about that, you may wonder how they made my list. Simply, I did my homework. Almost all of the rumors about them are misunderstandings and can be negated by actually reading their website. Huh, who would’ve thought? The only one that couldn’t was an article posted in 2013 which stated that they had missing funds, up to $6 million. While I agree that’s a problem that I didn’t find a solution to, they did pass the test for many leading charity reviewers: Charity Navigator Four Star Charity, Guide Star Exchange Silver Participant, Better Business Bureau Accredited Charity and Independent Charities of America Best. So, my opinion is that they couldn’t fool all of that oversight, especially considering several of those require transparency. Maybe that’s naive, but that’s where I landed.

And I didn’t read anything on their website that I questioned or didn’t agree with. I realize many people out there want the hair pieces to be free to recipients. And I admire that as well, and wish it were always an option as the people needing the hair are in terrible situations. But the hair given to recipients of LoL is either free or on a sliding scale based on their finances. Also, perhaps the largest reason, these are actual prostheses, not just hair pieces or wigs, which means they are fitted to the recipient’s head using custom molds over the course of a few months. So, they are more realistic and less likely to move around. Goodness knows that’s important for kids! This means their prosthesis are for long-term and permanent hair loss. Those who have short-term loss (ex: from chemo), are given synthetic wigs.

LoL also gives to multiple diagnoses, but mostly for Alopecia Areata, to which they also provide funding research, which is amazing. And their website is far more comprehensive than most of the others I looked at, which is always a good thing in my book. They just need to do a better job keeping their social media and blog up-to-date, but I digress.

Let’s face it, I have a mind for business and a heart for charity. And I have worked at both on multiple occasions. Therefore, I know that charities still need to make money. They are doing great work, but families have to be fed and lights have to stay on. So, I don’t knock LoL for needing to charge some people or for selling extra hair they can’t use. It makes a lot of sense.

So, as you can guess, in the end I went with Locks of Love. I sent my 10.5″ off this morning, and feel great about my decision. If I do this again, I may choose a different organization, but for now, I’m enjoying my summer hair, and proud of the fact that I could help someone with such a simple act.

If you ever decide to donate hair, do your own research and make a decision you can stand behind. The point is that we’re all providing a gift to someone who needs it. And that’s always a good thing.

And from my point-of-view, the world could use a few more redheads. 😉


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I’m going to India! Would you be willing to help?

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Darjeeling, India

I’m so excited to be heading to India for the first time this July with two friends to learn and explore. My friend who is leading the team is the founder of an organization that assists at-risk girls in India to pursue their education through university level with “life scholarships,” which provide housing, tuition, clothing, medical care, life training, tutoring, service opportunities, stability and care while in school. The funding is mostly accomplished through her tea shop in Downtown Atlanta, which is how I met her.

Unfortunately, some women and girls in India are still persecuted for being female, especially in rural areas like Darjeeling. And for some of these girls in the program, good alternatives would be hard to find. They have already faced incomprehensible challenges in their young lives such as: families who couldn’t provide for them, being orphaned for being a girl, and the threat of being trafficked or forced into prostitution, among others. So, I’m excited to meet the scholars in this program who are excelling in their education, and have promising futures that might not otherwise be available to them. They will create a better India. In a country of 1.2 billion people, the education disparity between girls and boys, especially after age 14, is still far too high. Programs like this one are helping to fill the void. For more information on girls’ education in India, please see the “women’s education” section on this page.

Additionally, many of you are aware of my passion for abolishing modern-day slavery. According to the 2014 Global Slavery Index, India has more slaves than any other country in the world, around 14 million. Therefore, I am very interested to see the climate which fosters this reality, and hopefully meet other organizations who are on the front lines of fighting this atrocity in its various forms.

And, of course, there will be many bright spots in this trip. India is a unique and beautiful country with a long and interesting history. I’m really excited to see the culture and vibrancy of these remarkable people.

It’s going to be an incredible trip, and I’d love to have you partner with me.

Here are some of the things we’ll be doing:

  • Staying with the 11 scholars at their center and spending time with them, helping however we can and learning their individual stories.
  • Exploring the cities of Kolkata and Darjeeling, and possibly Mumbai.
  • Visiting the tea plantation in Darjeeling where my friend sources her tea.
  • Connecting with other local orgs that are fighting various forms human and labor trafficking.
  • Having a ton of fun along the way!

If any additional money is raised beyond my needs or goal, I plan to give it as a donation to this incredible organization. And if you’d like to make a donation to them directly, I’m happy to connect you.

**Unfortunately, donations made for this trip are not tax-deductible. I realize that may impact your ability to give, and I still deeply appreciate any consideration. Also, please know that Indiegogo Life, where my campaign is housed, charges no fees for its service, therefore all donations will go directly to me outside of your standard credit card fees which are typically around 3%.**